The Best Revenge is What You Make It

I recently saw a commercial for a new tv show that suggests weight loss is the key to revenge. The TV show advocates achieving the hottest body possible through the loss of body fat will ensure revenge and victory. Both the act and thought of revenge are perfectly normal for all to experiance, even I am guilty of partaking in a bit of revenge.  However, revenge should not be a mandatory act.  Those who seek revenge are only drawing more attention to the person or cause.

Studies prove that revenge is both good and bad for the human psyche.

According to Eric Jaffe of the observer, he states that revenge can cause more harm than good in the long run.

In the past few years, psychological scientists have discovered many ways in which the practice of revenge fails to fulfill its sweet expectations. Behavioral scientists have observed that instead of quenching hostility, revenge can prolong the unpleasantness of the original offense and that merely bringing harm upon an offender is not enough to satisfy a person’s vengeful spirit.

Dr. Michael McCullough, a psychologist at the University of Miami, states that in order to understand revenge we must look at it as a functional behavior.  McCullough says, ”Revenge can be a very good deterrent to bad behavior, and bring feelings of completeness and fulfillment.”

Revenge is a normal psychological reaction; however, acts of revenge or even vengeance are irregular and, often times, dangerous.  While it is true that acts of revenge can bring momentary justice; prolonged offenses of revenge can cause more harm than good.

Revenge should not be glamourized or a TV show.  Revenge should be a healthy and empowering Journey that the victim must conquer on their own time.  The Journey could stem from the success of finances, material goods, friends and family, health, pure happiness, etc.  Essentially, it’s not up to an ex, an old friend, a high school bully, or society- it’s up to the individual continuing their personal Journey.

 

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